Unjumbled Thoughts

Unjumbled Thoughts

Share this post

Unjumbled Thoughts
Unjumbled Thoughts
Let's Start at the Ending...

Let's Start at the Ending...

How I managed to escape my covert narcissistic abusive relationship with the help of the man - Him - who tried to destroy my life.

Lori Fazzino's avatar
Lori Fazzino
Sep 15, 2023
∙ Paid
8

Share this post

Unjumbled Thoughts
Unjumbled Thoughts
Let's Start at the Ending...
1
1
Share

love shouldn't hurt-printed on back of woman
Photo by Sydney Sims on Unsplash

Beginning at the ending only seems fitting. I’m not the type of writer who leaves readers in suspense. So let me just tell you - this man destroyed my life…my Shanghai life that is. I had been living and teaching in Shanghai, China for nearly seven years. I had built a stellar reputation, teaching at a very famous Chinese school. Aside from that, I had developed quite a side hustle tutoring the children of the Chinese 1%. How do I know my side hustle was successful? I had a waiting list of parents wanting to get in with me.

I began dating a friend…a man I had known for 12 years. He was my office mate in graduate school. We had an off again/on again friends with benefits situationship over the years. After his last relationship ended, I suggested he move out of the U.S. and teach English in Thailand. After some consideration, he did. When, after the 2022 spring lockdown in Shanghai I could see no end in sight to China’s ridiculous zero-Covid policy, I decided I would leave and move to Thailand after my current contract was finished in 2023. I made a call to Him. That’s what we’re going to call him - Him. We locked down our relationship. It was September 14, 2022.

This post is for paid subscribers

Already a paid subscriber? Sign in
© 2025 Lori Fazzino
Privacy ∙ Terms ∙ Collection notice
Start writingGet the app
Substack is the home for great culture

Share